What's The Impact???
We have all seen them
or know someone who has been or is bullied in the workplace. While some
instances of bullying may take a more subtle form, the impact resulting from
the abuse can have lasting effects. You may know someone who has been bullied
at their job, it may be a friend, a spouse of even you. While the bullying may be targeted at one
specific individual, it's important to note that the fallout may reach others
who are not directly involved. Let's look at an example of how bullying can
impact others besides the victim.
We can assume there
is a single mother named Julie who is working as a waitress, trying to make
ends meet on a limited salary. This
woman also depends on her tips to survive. Another waitress named Barbara is
constantly jockeying for the best tables in the restaurant. The manager assigns Julie some of the better
tables for one shift. Barbara gets
annoyed and begins to give Julie dirty looks. The abuse escalates as Barbara
feels Julie is getting preferential treatment and begins to talk down to her
and complains to other workers about her coworker. Julie hears through the grapevine that
Barbara is trying to destroy her reputation and confronts Barbara. Barbara, walks off saying “You're crazy
lady!” and a few other choice words.
Julie feels that if she complains to the boss, she may get fired and
says nothing. The abuse continues as the days and weeks move on.
This is just one
instance of abuse within the workplace.
So, how could the above scenario impact others? Let's take the above example and move
forward. Julie begins to go home and is
increasingly nervous about going back to the restaurant. She begins to dwell on
the situation and stops helping her daughter do homework. Her daughter begins to show signs of trouble
in class and Julie is called from the school.
The school wonders why her daughter’s grades are suffering and if there
is something they could do to help.
Julie, frustrated over the continued abuse at the restaurant quits her
job and is now in a worse situation. Her
daughter's grades continue to plummet due to her mother's worry over financial
issues.
It's possible
Barbara (the bully) may have been a bully to others and easily could have been
a bully as a child. As she progressed
through life, she was never stopped or confronted and the behavior
continued. The end result is she is
either not aware and or does not care how her actions affect others. You may ask, so what's the cure to all of
this? The answer is relatively simple
and consists of an intervention by others to confront the bully and find a way
to get them to stop the abuse. If you or
someone you know is being bullied in the workplace, seek help to stop the
abuse!
If you need professional help, call me at (214) 546 4514 to schedule an appointment.
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