A pet is a family member because animals and humans share a
deep bond. When a pet dies, it often causes deep sorrow for the owners and
family members. The first and most
important step to coping with this grief is to admit that it is alright to feel
sad. Replacing your pet soon after she/he that has died with another may not
make you feel any better. This is because it could cause you to remain in
denial over your loss for a longer period. You may find yourself comparing the
two pets and their personality without seeing the new pet as a separate
individual, unlike your lost pet. Therefore,
it is very important for you to allow yourself to mourn.
Mourning alone sometimes may not be easy to do so not feel
ashamed of reaching out to others to help you through this journey. This will
help you in bringing out the painful emotions that you are experiencing. Talk
about your memories with your best friends and family members. Let everyone who
shared the bond with your pet express themselves too. Whichever emotion these
memories cause, let them out. If they cause you to smile, then smile. If they cause you sadness and you feel like
crying, then cry. Do not feel embarrassed because all these feelings are normal
and okay.
Do not ignore the feelings of one family member over another.
In this case, I mean, attending to your children’s pain and ignoring your own
or any other adult in the family. Although the relationship between your pet
and each member of the family was different, the death has caused an amount of
pain in all of them. Thus, every member of your family should be given as much
help in coping with the pain as possible. A funeral or memorial for your pet
may also help you and your family to get closure. Writing notes down to read
out or recite during the service is often good. The notes may include how you
felt about your pet, how his/her death makes you feel or anything else that
comes to your mind when you think about her/him. Putting your thoughts on paper
reduces the pressure that is inside you. It also helps you face your innermost
emotions. Remember it is a tribute to a friend and a companion.
The word therapy may sound big but it is simply a way that
aids healing. If you do the above and you still feel deep overbearing pain,
then reach out to a professional grief counselor. Sharing this sad experience
with others outside your family who are also going through the same kind of
loss, may make the journey easier to take. Still, getting someone to hold your
hand and walking you through the grief step by step is a great therapeutic
route to healing. Do not afraid to seek pet bereavement counseling. Allow
someone else to help you through very difficult time.
As soon as you are able to cope with the pain of losing your
friend, you will be able to revisit the memories with joy. You will be able to
say, “I am glad that we had you in our lives even if it was just for a little
while.”
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